30 Days of Truth - Days 3 & 4, Now with extra bitterness
The skin is thin in California

Letting go of blogs doesn't mean letting go of bloggers

I have to clean my blogroll.  It hasn't been updated in forever.  It's one of those tasks that I think is important but I put it off because so many bloggers I loved have stopped blogging.  It's hard for me to let go of those folks.  I think a good third of my blogroll hasn't updated in months. And months.  But I keep hoping they'll come back.

I know that's the nature of blogging. Lots of people view it as a fleeting hobbie, lots of bloggers get frustrated or bored with one blog and just move on to start another one, with maybe a new personality or focus.  At least that used to be common (especially when a lot more of us were anonymous).  Actually, I'm not sure what the current ettiquette is about keeping a blog nowadays.  Can someone enlighten me?  I started five years ago and it really has changed.  We were kind of those weirdos with blogs, you know.  I feel a bit like an old fogey.  I have a hard time letting go because I really felt like I had a community back then.  (Back in the good old days.  grrr! *throws walnut*)  I still feel like I have a community, but it's moved and morphed, some of it shrinking, some of it expanding, and I don't necessarily know if it's the same as when I started.  It felt very personal back then.

Part of it is my fault and I think part of it is the way the Internet has changed.  Somewhere along the way I stopped visiting blogs as often, which I'm actually trying to change.  And part of it, there became just too many platforms to keep up on; one group at Facebook, one on Twitter, another on blogs, then the groups started merging and people migrated and I lost track.    

I admit it, I lost track of people and their blogs, and I feel bad about it.  Like old friends you've driften away from, then when you finally get around to visiting you find out they moved.  But some of them just left while I was still checking in, and I miss those people. I wonder how they're doing.

However, it is high time for me to update my blog roll.  (There's something about overcast Fall days that makes me feel the need to organize and be maudlin all at once.)  I've got a list in my bookmarks that is completely different. I've got lists on Facebook and Twitter and I'm itching with the need to get it all straightened out. (Stop laughing. I can do it.)

So here's the deal... if you're one of those bloggers who is still around but under a new name, new place, whatever, or if you just want to keep in touch even if you've left the blog world, or if you're a lurker (because I get a lot of hits and few comments)... drop me a line.

My email is always open.

                       - the weirdgirl



I'm a lurker AND on your blogroll. How did that happen?


So it's a good thing that I finally blogged again the day before this post after a couple months off because of too many reasons. So I guess I made the cut?!

I've been at it for 2 and a half years and have never felt that community you're talking about. I have my crew, but they really talk on Twitter more than blogs. It seems like if you're not reading and tweet sharing that you're not part of the promoting conversation so you're just not on the a list. Or maybe it's just my peeps.

foradifferentkindofgirl (fadkog)

The day you wrote this post, I had spent a chunk of my afternoon going through my Reader and culling out some of the blogs that had been dormant for far longer than I realized. There are quite a few people who started blogging around the time I did, or who I got to know a bit when I first started, who are no longer blogging anymore. I find I often wonder how they are, especially those who seemed to just drift away without any notice.

I do, however, understand the desire to wind down or step away. More often than not lately, the feeling has been strong in me. That sounded very Yoda-like. That's probably another reason I should stop blogging! Until then, though, I guess I'll keep plugging away, and enjoying those I know of who are still writing!

How to Change My Name

Having a good reputation as a blogger is a good sign that people do follow. Yet sometimes there are occasions that people have their own stuff to do. We really need to update our blogs in order that people may know what is happening around us and what keeps us busy. This is just a test of how can we get attached or connected to others.

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